Life is hectic, there’s no doubt about that. Being organized in life can be difficult and it seems as I personally walk through life, I find I am acutely aware more each day that no one really has it all figured out.
When I was young, I felt like the exception. I felt like I was somehow lagging behind everyone else, and that I needed to put forth greater effort to achieve what my peers were. Perhaps it was true, or perhaps it was a product of our society’s natural critical personality, but it has taken great lessons in my life for me to realize that who I am, where I am, and where I am going is all okay. As long as I am going there for me, and not for someone else.
Once I found my center and found that I can accept myself – worts and all! – I found that a massive weight had been lifted. I was no longer bound by the limitations and expectations of the world around me.
But I felt like there was more I could do to bring this awareness to the forefront of my life. This is the essence of this blog post today. I center this awareness around three major tenants: Patience, Discipline, and Compassion.
Let’s start with Patience.
Whether you’re an adept in your life, brilliant and thriving, or whether you struggle with your inner confidence, odds are you have tried to find, or even assert your dominance in your social settings. Sometimes its slight exaggerations about your accomplishments or who you are, other times its taking a little more offense than one might expect to criticism. It is understandable to feel these things because we often struggle with our sense of equality in a world where everyone scrutinizes and criticizes everything.
The time will come when you will be on the receiving end of someone else’s need to find their equality. They may struggle with a chain of mistakes, or they might be a bit more apprehensive towards a topic, or their confidence may waiver. When this time comes, start with patience. Have the awareness to see it for what it is and do not judge them harshly.
Our hearts are often blocked while we are surrounded by our peers; we’ve been trained this way because, as children, we probably experienced nearly constant peer pressure and judgement. Some people can brush this off with ease, while others can be made to feel smaller under the weight.
Have the patience to let them spread their wings without bias or criticism, even if they stumble. Help them, don’t swat them down. You will be surprised at how quickly they will grow.
Discipline is next.
Moving along with our point, discipline of self is the first step in both representing confidence and maintaining a steady image of yourself. Search deeply and find who you want to be and then have the courage and dedication to commit yourself to that person.
No matter what you have done in your life, no matter what mistakes you have made, no matter what you have been through, you can always stop, reset, and focus your energy on becoming the person you know in your heart you should be.
Don’t let yourself become distracted by it, or to procrastinate it. It will only become harder and harder to take that step. Now is the time! Not tomorrow, not in a week, not after that life event you’re expecting. Now.
Compassion is the last point and a powerful punctuation to this life lesson. Compassion is necessary in all we do, yet it seems it has become less and less abundant in recent history. While compassion is often considered to be an external trait — that is, a trait that we perform when regarding others — it is equally as important to be compassionate with yourself. Forgive yourself for your own mistakes. They say we are our own worst critics, but we don’t have to be so hard on ourselves that we beat ourselves down long before the rest of the world gets a chance.
These three points: Patience, Discipline, Compassion are not individual lessons, segregated from one another. They are cohesive and close. They are a unified path. We must have the patience, discipline, and compassion to accept others, to find ourselves, to stand in the truth of who we are, what the world is, and how we want to live our lives within it. We will stumble, but we will rise. Take your lessons in stride and never lose sight of your goal. Do this, and your happiness is assured and you will always be your best self, so long as you are always true to yourself.